​Logline

A Deaf gay couple. Hearing twins. One loud, loving family. "Loud Love" is an intimate verité documentary about parenting beyond sound, where identity, culture, and connection collide.

Short Synopsis

Following a seven-year long surrogacy process, gay deaf couple Alan and Brian finally brought their hearing twin babies home from India to New York. However, their journey through fatherhood meets new challenges when the increasingly rambunctious kids start screaming "you don't understand me" at them. "LOUD Love" is their story, a documentary about parenting, growth and its occasional hurdles.

​Full Synopsis

"Loud Love" is a multi-cultural, multi-lingual, and multi-abled portrait of family, identity, and love — seen through the lives of Alan and Brian, a Deaf gay couple raising hearing twins in New York City. Having both faced prejudice and marginalization from an early age, Alan and Brian chose to confront life’s barriers head-on by building a family of their own. After seven long years of failed attempts at surrogacy in the U.S., they turned overseas — eventually bringing home their hearing twins, Seth and Sela, from India in 2011. Their case, one of the last international surrogacies before the practice was banned in India, made national headlines. But what followed — the messy, beautiful reality of parenting — is the story this film tells.

Though united by Deafness and queerness, Alan and Brian came from vastly different worlds. Alan, a charismatic “bad boy” from a Jewish family on Long Island, was raised to speak and assimilate through intensive speech therapy. Brian, soft-spoken and grounded, grew up on a Canadian farm in a hearing family that embraced his Deaf identity. Their lives converged — first in a chance elevator meeting, then in love, marriage, and the founding of New York’s most successful ASL school. Through their relationship, Alan found sobriety.  Together, they built a joyful, ambitious life.

But as their children grow older — louder, more expressive, more defiant — tensions rise. The twins begin to shout, “You don’t understand me!” and the cultural, generational, and   communicational cracks start to show. Can Alan and Brian raise their children with love and confidence, even as they face doubts from their own families? Can Deaf culture be passed on to hearing children? And what happens to the quiet bond between Alan, who is sensitive and strong-willed, and Brian, who leads with gentleness and resolve?

Filmed over nearly a decade, "Loud Love" captures the emotional evolution of a family straddling multiple worlds. Through moments tender, humorous, and raw, it asks what it really means to be understood — and how we hold onto love when the volume keeps rising